A.K.A. THINGS I MIGHT HAVE SAID TO SOMEONE WITH DEPRESSION (BEFORE I’D EXPERIENCED IT MYSELF)
Many of these comments were said to me during my depression. Many of them, I actually told myself. They were not helpful in any way, shape, or form. They were also not true, and revealed just how poorly I understood mental illness. My poor understanding stemmed from never having been taught about it. As a child or an adult, I had never heard people talk of it. I had never been part of a discussion where people had described their experiences. I did not know how common it was, what to expect, what symptoms to look out for, or what treatment might involve. I felt the same shame that had caused others to hide their experiences. The same shame that ultimately lead to my own poor understanding of depression and other mental illnesses.
I told myself…
- That I should snap out of this.
- That I had no reason to feel sad – there was so much good stuff in my life.
- I should try to distract myself.
- That this was the result of my own weakness.
- This was sooooooooo embarrassing.
- I didn’t need medicine; I just needed to stop thinking so negatively.
- I really should snap out of this.
- Try to think positively.
- Everyone gets sad sometimes, but not everyone lets it get to them.
- No one ever died from feeling sad.
- For goodness sake, snap out of this.